If you are here after reading the caption, it means you are one of those who can observe deeply about your surroundings and who have seen or felt some sort of heat on social media. Yes, Social media is turning into hate media. Social media was a platform of our generation, the young generation. It used to be the media about which all used to flaunt that its not the mainstream media. It’s the media of truth, unbiased realities, and the masses. But with time it has turned from a medium of entertainment, joy, and sharing into a place full of hate, criticism, bullying, harassment, and fake information.
The topic is so wide and it has so many aspects that it may be difficult to cover all in a single article.
Let’s look around ourselves and our circle?
How long its been that you have posted something on Facebook/Twitter and it hasn’t directly or indirectly criticized any person? How long has it been that you haven’t taunted someone through a post? How long its been that you have tried to win a political argument about your favorite political party without degrading the other politician/party or the reader you are targeting? How long has it been that you have politely disagreed with anyone on a topic or at the very least, agreed to disagree on a certain instance? When was the last time you happily agreed with the point of view of your friend/mate or family member?
How Many Constructive And Rational Posts Have You Seen Recently?
Let’s take a minute out, let’s just pause for a moment before moving onwards in this article. Think of all the posts that you, your family, and your friends are making at any social media platform. Consider any issue they are debating upon on Twitter or Facebook. Recall any topic that’s been discussed on Instagram. Did you observe that either the post or the comments below it have the element of hate in the form of sarcasm or troll? How many of us have discussed a topic constructively? Positively? How many of us have discussed the topic without criticizing, humiliating anyone? How many of us have tried to understand the point of view of the other person or party?
All the debates around us, they are mostly based on self-based assessments and assumptions. Personal likes, personal bias is natural but that should be backed by facts and statistics, and not in a manner to just win an argument. The exchange of words is not to convey the message but to humiliate, degrade the other person, or to win a debate.
Trolling, Sarcasm & Roasting ? or Hate?
The concept of sarcasm and trolling was to convey a point playfully and to convey your thoughts on a lighter note. But if you observe the trolls, the memes, and the sarcasm is being used merely to insult others. The pictures, the persons, and the quotes of celebrities and famous personalities are being used to such an extent that they are getting ridiculed all over the internet. Being a celebrity or a successful person doesn’t mean that the person is mentally strong also. It also doesn’t mean that the person can bear such criticism.
Hatred in the name of trolling? Criticism in the disguise of a troll? If social media are a product of our generation then sorry to say that the product is turning out to be a shameful representation of us all.
Just look around the social media and see any celebrity’s post. You will find tons of hate comments below it. Just look at any scholar, you will find myths about his life and how he is a negative person.
” If you don’t like a sports person, then you have the right to criticize his game-play, you can question his wrong strategies, the wrong moves he made during the game but just to criticize someone because he was dancing on the streets. No ! you can’t bring anyone’s personal life and take out your biased hatred towards him Everyone has the right to speak and express but the expression should be constructive. “
Why do we always have to prove anyone wrong to prove ourselves right?
Bullying on Social Media
Social media is getting way ahead in terms of bullying. Bullying celebrities, bullying politicians, religious scholars, and even the sportspersons. The common people among us get bullied as well when they present something that has a different perspective than the majority. The Majority will surely come to bully us. None of us is immune to this bullying culture. Sometimes we become the victim and sometimes we are the bullies.
Extent of Bullying
People hesitate to join groups on social media intentionally but they become a part of the group when they post something, comment on an article, or even in a video game when there is a competitive multiplayer online.
Consider discussing a topic online in any group or on any public post. You might end up getting threatened on the same post, or getting abused, in extreme cases getting stalked for a longer time on all your accounts to judge your personality. Females might even get harassed by just giving an opinion that is different from others or the mainstream.
Are we fighting mental health or being the cause of it?
We talk about mental health, we talk about depression and then we all contribute to it in one way or the other. Sometimes the target is a politician or a celebrity and sometimes the target is our close friend.
Just look at the twitter trends and see the comments/tweets of the people. Just look at the social media walls, statuses, and posts. How many people post positive stuff?
” It just makes me wonder what is so frustrating in their lives that lead them to come and spit hatred at these social platforms? I can’t think of a successful person or someone who is satisfied in his life and circle coming up and putting hate comments or degrading comments about others. “
Don’t lose your friends and loved ones in winning an argument.
In the temporary adrenaline rush of a discussion, you may disrespect and ridicule someone to prove your point, you may eventually win the discussion with your strong voice and narrative but there is a chance you lose your place or respect. And there is a chance you may lose that loved one.
You may think after some time, Was winning that debate worth losing your place in someone’s life?
The debates regarding the political parties and situation across the world seem to be unending. The debate surely results in a change of fate for few nations but overall, the political situations of the country won’t change massively. At the end of the day, it is you who is going to earn for your self and your family. In favoring some political stance or in hating someone else, don’t go so low that you might lose some friends.
Winning doesn’t require defeating others always
Try to understand that Winning doesn’t require defeating others always. Winning an argument doesn’t mean you are superior or better than the other person. Don’t go to such an extent where there is a point of no return. We need to learn the art of communication to lessen this negativity around us. We need to learn to respond on social media platforms to increase positivity around us and within ourselves.
Learn the art of communication-Be the change you want to see in others.
Challenge the Topic Not the Person
If there is a debate, always challenge the topic of discussion rather than the person who is arguing. The friend or family member should not be hurt in any way to win an argument.
Discuss with Rational Logics and Facts
Back your argument in a friendly manner with facts and figures, with statistics and rational arguments. Don’t try to win the argument just for the sake of winning
Negate the Hate
Avoid hate speech and respond to the hate speech with a compliment about the friend or family member who is throwing it while disagreeing with you. Believe me, No discussion is worth losing your respect or losing your loved ones.
Be polite in your reply. Even if someone is abusing, you don’t need to abuse if you are presenting a logical statement.
Take a break and catch a breath
Try to take a breath or break when involved in such a heated conversation. Don’t say anything you have to regret later on.
Smile often and pass a compliment
Try to lessen the tension and hate by offering a smile or compliment.
Use Humor Not Sarcasm
Use humor and light tone. Don’t be sarcastic or taunting. Be humorous to make the discussion lighter just to avoid getting stressed yourself.
Little Deeds of Kindness
The famous poem of Julia. A. Carney gave us this lesson in childhood,
Little deeds of Kindness,
Little words of Love,
Makes our Earth an Eden,
Like the Heaven Above
Kindness is a virtue that won’t hurt you ever. Kindness will keep you winning always. You don’t need to win the discussion or argument, you need to win hearts in this world which is being occupied by hate. Let’s play our role in making this world a better place. Let’s learn to tolerate, let’s learn to have patience, Let’s learn to listen and let’s learn to be Kind. As there is a famous saying
“In a World Where You Can Be Anything, Be Kind“